How to improve the relationship between parents and children 如何改善父母和青少年的关系 Adolescent 青少年 Growthchange 青少年成长变化

 Posted on Tuesday, 18 October 2016

How to improve the relationship between parents and children

 

如何改善父母和青少年的关系

 

Adolescent 青少年

 

Growth change 青少年成长变化

 

• Biological 生理– Hormonal change 荷尔蒙变化

 

• Social 社交– peer pressure 容易受到朋友影响

 

• Psychological change 心理– change in mood 情绪波动

 

 

 

What is adolescent? 什么是青少年？

 

• Age 10 to 20 years old between childhood and maturity

 

青少年成长期十岁到二十岁

 

Adolescent Problem

 

Identity

 

• the individual characteristics by which a thing or person is recognized or known as. 个性特征

 

Sexuality

 

• Gender identity is how a person identifies him/her self in terms of their gender.  性别特征

 

Adolescent grow / age

 

• The home is very important because home environment and family have great impact on the mind development of teenagers for the future family. 家是非常重要的，因为家庭环境和家庭对青少年思想的发展产生极大影响。

 

• Happy marriage and happy divorce will be the best gifts for the children. 幸福的婚姻，开怀的离婚将用于儿童最好的礼物

 

Children with special needs 特殊孩子

 

Generally,poor in social skills,poor in educational and organizational skills and time management.

 

大部分社交技能差，组织技能和时间管理

 

• poor in social skill – have difficulties in waiting for things they want and have short patience during games.

 

社交技能差 – 他们在等待事务和游戏中轮候是面对困难。

 

• poor in education – problems with school work and have trouble in completing homework and assignments.

 

学习能力差-在完成家庭作业和和功课是面对困难。

 

• poor in organization skill – unable to follow instructions and planning,becomes easily confused and has difficulty in processing information.

 

组织技能差 – 他们无法遵循指示，容易混淆，难以处理信息和规划 。

 

• poor in time management – difficult with time keeping and concept of time.

 

时间管理不善 – 他们难以维持时间和时间概念。

 

The children who have common problem in school and social skill are:

 

面对学习和社会问题的儿童是：

 

• ADHD-Attention deficit hyperactivity disorder

 

• Symptoms :

 

• Inattention,hyperactive and impulsive are the key behavior of ADHD.

 

注意力不集中，多动，冲动是ADHD的关键行为。

 

• Easily distracted,miss details,  forget things,have difficulty in focusing on one thing.

 

很容易分心，错过细节，忘了东西和很难集中精神。

 

• Struggle to follow instruction

 

抗拒服从指令。

 

• Have trouble sitting still during dinner,school lessons and story time.

 

坐立不定

 

 

 

• Dyslexia 诵读困难

 

• Is a learning disorder that manifests itself as a difficulty with reading and spelling.

 

是一个学习障碍，一个有阅读和拼写困难的问题。

 

• Difficult with organization skill

 

组织技巧面对困难

 

• Poor in social skill

 

社交技巧 差

 

• Poor in writing

 

书写能力差

 

• Reverse vision in alphabets and numbers

 

逆向字母和数字

 

• ADHD   – Attention Deficit Hyperactive

 

Disorder 过动儿，集中力面对问题

 

• Dyslexia – A problem with reading, spelling

 

and speaking. 阅读，听写与表达 面对问题

 

• Dysplexia – A problem in the speech and oral

 

area of the brain. 语言障碍

 

• A S D   –   Autism Spectrum Disorder

 

(Including Asperger Syndrome) 自闭症(轻微自闭症）

 

 

 

What is ADHD
什么是过动儿?

 

• Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder.

 

注意力多动障碍。

 

• It is a medical condition involving BRAIN dysfunction .

 

这是一个脑功能障碍。

 

• Symptoms of ADHD 过动儿特征 :-

 

–   Inattention 注意力不集中

 

–   Hyperactivity 多动症

 

–   Impulsivity 冲动

 

 

 

INATTENTION
注意力不集中

 

• Often does not seem to listen when spoken to directly.

 

不用心听讲别人说话。

 

• Often has difficulty organizing tasks and activities.

 

经常在组织任务和活动面对困难。

 

• Often fails to give close attention to details or makes careless mistakes in schoolwork and other activities.

 

往往不能给予密切注意于细节功课和其他活动中犯错。

 

• Often does not follow through on instructions and fails to finish schoolwork

 

往往不配合的指示，不能完成学业。

 

HYPERACTIVITY
多动

 

• Often runs & climbs about   (feelings of restlessness). 时常奔跑与跳动(坐立不安)

 

• Often cannot sit still. 不能稳坐

 

• Talks excessively. 很多话讲

 

IMPULSIVITY冲动

 

• Often blurts out answers before questions have been completed.

 

经常在问题还没问完时冲说出他要的答案。

 

• Often has difficulty waiting their turn (very impatient).

 

经常在等待次序会面对困难很不耐烦）。

 

• Often interferes on others (e.g. butts into conversations or games).

 

通常干扰（切入谈话或游戏）。

 

 

 

Possible causes of ADHD-like behavior
过动儿的类似行为的原因

 

• A sudden change in the child’s life – the death of a parent or parents’ divorce.

 

孩子的生活突然巨变 – 父母死亡或父母离婚。

 

• A middle ear infection that causes intermittent hearing problem.

 

中耳感染导致间歇性的听觉问题。

 

• Medical disorders that may affect brain functioning . (Very high fever during a child’s development)

 

内科疾病可能影响大脑功能。 （儿童的发展时期面对高烧）

 

• Complications during childbirth 分娩并发症

 

• Accidents –   especially head injury 意外 – 尤其是头部受伤

 

• Childhood Trauma (from Birth to 18 years old)  童年创伤（从出生到十八岁）

 

• Anxiety or depression 焦虑或抑郁

 

Some of the main effects of ADHD
一些过动儿的主要影响

 

• Living for the moment – like to have fun most of the time.

 

活在此刻 – 大多数最喜欢游戏人间的时间。

 

• Poor Organizational skills. 组织能力差

 

• Lack of Social Skills- Inability to read social clues

 

社会技能 – 缺乏阅读社会肢体语言线索技能

 

• Frustration and intolerance – Inflexibility or rigid

 

挫折和不容忍及礼让 – 不够弹性 和 僵硬

 

• Risk taking or thrill seeking behaviors ( e.g .car racing) .

 

冒险或寻求刺激的行为（如赛车）。

 

• Unable to pay attention 无法集中精神

 

• Lying, stealing and blaming others. 欺骗，偷窃及诬赖别人。

 

THE 3 IMPACTS IN ADHD
过动儿三大影响

 

• Education Impact 教育影响

 

• Behavioral Impact     行为影响

 

• Social Impact               社交影响

 

EDUCATIONAL IMPACT
教育影响

 

• Work too slow or too fast 动作太慢

 

• Forgets instructions 忽略指示

 

• Lazy or stupid 懒惰与愚笨

 

• Always leave things to last minutes 临时抱佛脚

 

• Difficulty in completing tasks 在完成任务是面对困难

 

BEHAVIORAL IMPACT
行为影响

 

• Demanding 过份要求

 

• Lacks self-control 没有自制能力

 

• Talks more than others 比别人多话

 

• Disruptive and accident prone 破坏性和容易发生事故

 

• Easily distracted and has good and bad days 容易分心和有心境好和坏的日子

 

 

 

SOCIAL IMPACT
社交影响

 

• Selfish and egocentric 自私及自尊心强

 

• Anxious, rude and insensitive 忧郁，没有礼貌，不敏感

 

• Immature 幼智

 

• Depressed 悲哀

 

• Low self-esteem 低自尊

 

• Withdrawn 封闭自己

 

• Inability to feel for others 不顾别人感受

 

• Doesn’t take turns 不轮流

 

 

 

Symptoms of DYSLEXIA
阅读障碍的特征

 

• Poor in problem solving in mathematics 在解决数学问题时有困难

 

• Problem with sequencing :-   in multiplication , division, time , money, spelling , days and month

 

数学排序面对问题：如 加减乘除，时间，金钱，拼读，月，年，日

 

• Poor short term memory 短暂记忆力差

 

• PROBLEM :- 问题

 

• Social & emotional problem – poor self image ,lack of _confidence & bullying in school.

 

社会及情绪问题 – 自我形象差，缺乏信心和在校园内饱受欺凌。

 

• Anti social ,depression, aggression ,mood disorder & cognitive limitation.

 

抗拒社会，抑郁，攻击性，情绪障碍与认知局限.